The Unbecoming!

🌹 “Love the unbecoming,” says the rose. “Love the becoming something else. Don’t fear the unbecoming.”Death Valley, Melissa Broder

These words remind me of a timeless hindi poem, Pushp ki Abhilasha (The Wish of a Flower):

🌹चाह नहीं, मैं सुरबाला के गहनों में गूँथा जाऊँ। चाह नहीं, प्रेमी-माला में बिंध प्यारी को ललचाऊ” – Pushp ki Abhilasha, Makhanlal Chaturvedi

The flower metaphorically refuses glory, ornament, or permanence. Instead, it embraces the path of unbecoming — to be broken, scattered, or given away — it means becoming part of something larger: the courage of those who walk the path of sacrifice and purpose.

As a leader, I hear in this both a challenge and an invitation:

  • To not cling to titles, positions, or recognition.
  • To not fear the letting go that growth requires.
  • To remember that our “unbecoming” can create space for collective becoming.

The author and poet invite us that true legacy lies not in preservation, but in transformation.

What do you hold onto that may, in fact, be asking to unbecome?

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